#1 Advice That Leaves A Man 'Girl-less' (You Probably Heard It Before)

I'm sure throughout your life, you've heard a VARIETY of dating
advice or suggestions coming from different people (perhaps an
auntie or a school friend etc).

Among these advices, no doubt some of them can be helpful in making
you get better with women.

Realistically, there'll also be common ones that does NOTHING to
boost a guy's social life.

And over the years, if I were to choose one absolute WORST advice
that can be thrown in a guy's face, it'll be - "Just be yourself."

*WAIT, WAIT WAIT!*

I'm NOT suggesting you to become someone else you're not or
betraying your own values.

To explain...

Over the years in my life, I've met many folks who gave out this
"just be yourself" line. As I look back, I realised they were...

- either single (for a long time)
- or said "just be yourself" because they DON'T know what other
advice to give.

[It's like an 'EASY WAY OUT' advice]

When it comes to becoming successful with ladies, it's too MUDDY to
simply say "just be yourself". It doesn't mean anything on its own.

Plus, I've came across very nice men with pleasant outlooks... they
were "being themselves" for 30, 40 years but have yet to find
success with gals.

So, my take on that is -

If being yourself doesn't give you the results you want with women,
it's time to IMPROVE or upgrade your "self".

After that, are you still yourself?

*** Yes, you're still yourself... only BETTER.***


Understand that being too caught up with the "Just be yourself"
line can become a TRAP for a person to remain where he is and NOT
want to move forward.

It's a different game now...

"Be yourself AND at the same time hold the skills to attract
fantastic women."

For me, aside from my current girlfriend, I've dated some
delightful gals in the past. Thing is...

... deep inside I know all of it would never happen if I remain my
"old self".

Looking at it another way -

The BETTER version of "self" rescued the "old self" from a life of
dateless-ness and loneliness.

To wrap it all up, there's no need to become someone else. Be a
more powerful version of yourself instead.

With respect,
Skilldo

How to NOT Get "Tongue-Tied' In Front of Women

Whether it's during an approach or a date, most guys become
tongue-tied or turn ladies off because TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE is put
into the interaction.

Consider these thoughts-

"I can't screw up this one. She's the last hot girl out there."

"If I don't do well at this date, I'll probably be girlfriend-less."

"She's the one. She's too nice/beautiful for me to lose."


Note: The above may seem like odd sentences, but believe it or not,
I hear them coming out of guys quite often.

My thoughts are - Firstly, earth (and our hometown Singapore)
is manufacturing more gorgeous and nice women every minute. So
DON'T worry about "there's no one else to date already".

Next, thinking there's too much at stake will ironically cause the
whole thing to fall hard. Afraiding it'll screw up ironically
causes it to screw up.

Reason - If you think there's too much at stake, there'll be
pressure. And when ladies sense pressure, they get uncomfortable.
Not good.

It's like this scenario - You're casually playing basketball.
Having fun standing few feet away from the basket and throwing
balls into it.

You're doing well so far. Suddenly, a man comes over and whisper in
your ear "The next ball you throw better go into the basket...
because I just bet your eyes on it. If you miss, I'll gouge
them out!"

The scene suddenly changes to a sweaty one where there's pressure
and something's at stake. So what are the chances of 'scoring' in
such a scene? Probably low.

And that absolutely relates to being good with ladies where how you
feel about being in the presence of women should change.

How?

I recommend this -

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Indulge Yourself Fully In The Process of FUN When Interacting With
Ladies
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Go out and lose yourself in the fun. Go out and casually interact,
thinking about the amount of amusement you're going to have,
instead of pressurizing oneself with fears such as "what if she
don't give me her number, what if she has a boyfriend" etc.

Nothing's at stake.

And when I say fun, I mean the 'discovery process' of meeting/dating
women. Get amused by what you found out about them... she talks
funny, she's shy, she can't dance, she just went on a holiday etc...

As it turns out, in such a comfortable situation, women are more
receptive. They respond better to the attraction tactics you deploy.

So...

Meeting women is fun. Talking and teasing women is fun. Being
around women is fun (it really is, I assure you).

Conclusion: Screwing up is the last thing in your mind when you're
enjoying yourself.

With respect,
Skilldo

Let's Talk About 'Resistance' From Women...

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On with this issue...

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Let's Talk About 'Resistance' From Women
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Two men.

One guy can face a situation where a response from a lady is not
positive and he'll feel rejected... even upset.

Another guy can face the SAME thing, yet he feels UNAFFECTED (he
can even grin to himself and feel motivated about the situation).

It's not a quiz or anything, but I'm sure you can guess who among
the two leads a life obtaining more successes with women.

Thing is - A man who has high levels of success with ladies can do
so because of the personal 'CODE OF CONDUCT' he live by.

There are a number of 'code of conduct' and perhaps one of the
first to be embraced is -

Never take it personally when facing resisting or negative
responses from women.

You see - While interacting with gals, doing things right can draw
out smiles and good attraction feelings from women. Yet, it is
unrealistic to think there won't be resistance every time.

Anyone who has talked to and mixed with enough ladies will know
resistance happens in some and not in others.

By that, resistance can mean cold replies or uninterested reactions.

Could a guy possibly did something to cause that?

Maybe, but that doesn't mean he has to blame himself for it (which
by the way, blaming oneself is the deepest form of taking things
personally).

The same time and effort taken to blame oneself can be used to
learn and modify your 'moves' to wear down the lady's resistance.

More importantly, at times, negative responses from gals have
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you.

A quick self-explanatory example would come in handy here.

Once went to chalet to celebrate a lady friend's return from
overseas. Her own friends from elsewhere were there and vividly,
there was this gal dressed in light blue who was quiet to the max
and doesn't look keen to interact.

Most of that night, she was sitting by herself and occasionally
whipping out her handphone to either sms or play games with it.

She's almost seen as the 'cold zombie' for that night.

Here's where things get interesting...

The chalet was an overnight event. So the next morning while having
breakfast, this cold one suddenly became 'alive' and warm.

I asked her what's the deal about her being like a statue twelve
hours ago versus now.

Her reply?

She doesn't "feel her best" the night before. After waking up, she
felt "more sunny".

Plain and simple.

For the rest of the breakfast, she was talkative (and I mean
VERY)... can't shut her up even if we wanted to.

So as you can see, resistance in a girl at times have nothing to do
with you.

Imagine if a dude were to talk to the girl in the example the night
before and got cold replies. He might just mistaken the situation
and develop self doubt... whereby there's really nothing to
self-doubt at all.

Once again, refer to the 'code of conduct' at the top again. Most
guys 'kill themselves' for nothing... but not those who are
unaffected by women's resistance.

With respect,
Skilldo