What Causes a Woman To LIKE You (+ Something Crazy)

"In succeeding with women, if there's ONE area out of many that men
should put SOLID-FOCUS into, what would it be?"

That's what I was once asked.

Personally I found --- *Creating the awesome date experience* is
where MANY "likings from women" happen, and it's definitely an area
you cannot neglect.

Looking at the big picture, a date is the "nerve centre" of the
entire sequence in getting the girl.


In that case, is approaching and getting phone number a vital part
of the whole process?

Yes, of course.

Yet very often, a date experience is the VERY factor that
determines whether deep connection with a gal is "won" or "lost"
there.

Think about it: If a date doesn't work, ALL previous efforts
leading up to it (including meeting her, getting her contacts and
asking her out) are "retro-destroyed".

Plainly...

If the date experience is well-accomplished, the woman proceeds to
have huge liking for you.

If the date experience sucks, the woman wouldn't want to go out
again. And even with her msn or phone number, it DOESN'T matter...
she's not going to go out (not with an intention to develop
romantically anyway).

With that, I've devoted a ONE DAY closed-door event (on Sat, 5 Jan
2008) to ensure your next immediate date becomes an experience that
GENERATES LIKING in the girl you're out with.

It's called -

"Dynamo Dating" -

16 Secret "Moves" That Get Ladies Interested In You On Dates...

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There's something (crazy) I want to tell you...

I confidently believe "Dynamo Dating" to be one of the biggest 'aha
moment' revealed to you at the start of 2008. With that, I'm
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Check out the site to know what almost insane penalty I'm talking
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it as well).

With respect,
Skilldo

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Dating Tip... How to BOND Deeply With Women

I'd like to give you an idea that can INCREASE the amount of
bonding you have with a woman the next time you're out on a date.

But first, let's 'investigate' what typically goes on during dates
for most of the guys out there.

Usually, a man and a woman's date will involve a lot of 'sitting'.
It's often a restaurant where they sit and chat.

Once they're done, they'll move on to another place, say a cafe and
sit again... repeating the process.

And I haven't even mentioned about watching movies in a cinema...
another 'sitting session'.

There's nothing wrong with 'sit and chat' of course. However, it
is certainly wrong if it's the ONLY type of interactivity a man
ultilizes on the date.

What I'm suggesting is you need to ADD a deeper form of interaction
with women on dates. Other than sitting down, you can move around
with her... you get involved in choosing things with her... you
belong to a little 'own world' with her.

One suggestion is shopping. But hold on, I'm suggesting...

...NOT just plain shopping. There's a difference between 'passive
shopping' and 'active shopping' when you're on a date.

And 'active shopping' is the one that gets you results.

Put it simply, 'passive shopping' is just go to a store with a gal,
look around and get out.

"Active shopping' is when you enter a shop, you toy around with the
stuff inside with your date, you try things on for one another, you
play around... dress things up with her.

You and the lady are INVOLVED.

Eg: Bookstore. Find those horoscope books. Pick one up, hold it
together with her and explore each others' sign. Giggle together at
how real or how phony the things that are written. Then you bring
her to another section with those 'personality test' books and
start quizzing one another.

That is 'active shopping'.

To compare, 'passive shopping' in a bookstore is when you finger
through the rows of books, flip through some and put back, while
she seperately browse her own books... tell me, where's the
male/female involvement?

So, as you can imagine, bookstore is just an example. You can
connect with your date in gift shop, cd store, shoe shop etc. The
idea is still the same...

... which is - When you and a girl are 'active shopping' from place
to place, her body receives signals that she's been to places and
did a lot of things together with you. The amount of connection
between you both is therefore... stronger.

Go ahead and use the suggested activity. And I recommend combining
it with some attraction-loaded strategies which appeal to women
more than other guys can ever dream of. It further rocket-boosts
your attractiveness with her.

Seriously, to attract the type of woman you desire, you cannot be
just like 'one of the guys'. You have to become a man who is
attractivey different than others.

If you like to get all the strategies to achieve that very outcome,
you can check out a bootcamp I'm running on 29, 30 Dec'07.

See it here (Note: 3 places left):

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Take care.


With Respect,
Skilldo

Why Women Enjoy Being Around a "Certain" Type of Guy...

I'm a bit reluctant to write you this e-letter because while
reading it, it's easy to mistaken me as a person who encourages the
'dark side of human being' to jump out.

That's not my intention but as you may have noticed around you,
there's a 'breed' of man who ladies tend to be attracted to or
stick with...

... he's conventionally called the 'bad boy' or the 'not-so-nice
guy'.

Call such a man whichever way but the fact remains -
Such men with a 'taint of badness' have more desirable female
activity around them.

Let's define first - a bad boy is NOT a bad person.

In the "real-world sense", the word 'bad' when describing a man,
brings up associations of a guy who abuses dogs or holds a bunch of
criminal records.

In the "attraction sense", 'bad' is NOT about nastiness or
ill-doing. It's just a guy who gives women a perceived feeling of
"thrill".

Another way to phrase it (as described to me by a female) is such
men are "naughty in a charming way".

An example: I've a friend who was such a person. We knew each other
in the same leisure group I joined years back, and while he has a
girlfriend of 3 years at that time, he'll receive smses from
different ladies almost every afternoon.

Offers include dinner or pubbing on weekends but apparently he has
to turn down most.

Here's a weird fact: He's not a good looker.

But what differentiates him from other guys is his natural ability
to flirt with women without trying. He teases ALL women (be it
group mates, ordinary lady friends or the auntie who washes
the toilet) and seem to be the happy guy who's unaffected by things.

He didn't even realised this himself... it just comes
automatically.

He'll say stuff that gets laughter out of ladies and while they're
still in the middle of a giggling fit, he'll say to them in a
jokingly stern manner, "Shhhh, quiet. You're a lady ok, stop
laughing like a 5 year old."

With that, he gets smilingly registered as a 'bad boy' by many
females... and they LIKE IT.

And the fact that he admits to girls he's always been naughty since
he was a kid makes it much more inviting.

When all is said, the question you may have is "Do I have to BE a
'bad boy' to attract females?"

Absoultely not.

But you have to understand the 'mechanics' behind such appeal to
women.

In my life, I personally know men who look NOTHING like a 'bad
boy', but they incorporate elements of the bad boy naughty appeal
into interactions with ladies and still attain huge success.

It's all about seeing conversation with females NOT just as
chatting... but seeing it as a process of blasting attraction and
appeal in her mind during the interaction.

That said, I've devoted a full course-work bootcamp (on 29, 30
December 2007) that's meant to spark and INCREASE attraction on
every meetings you have with women from now.

When you join the bootcamp, on top of the entire coursework, one of
the EIGHT bonus that's included is a report "Case Studies Of 4
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In it, you can learn and duplicate the exact strategies of what
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Thanks!


With Respect,
Skilldo

"Dynamo Dating", a Secret Story I Didn't Tell Anyone...

Around 20 days ago, I ran a S'pore 'closed door' event called...


"Dynamo Dating" -
16 Secret "Moves" That Get Ladies Interested In You On Dates...


The seats were sold-out within 72 hours, but the "BEHIND THE
SCENES" story you DON'T know is ---

It was a Sunday morning when my trusted admin guy called to tell me
all seats were filled.

I was actually woken from deep sleep at the point when he rang. And
as I struggle to reach for the handphone by far end of the bedside,
I accidentaly pressed my girlfriend ON HER RIBS with my knee.

It wasn't one of those light presses. With my weight and all, it's
like someone dropped a wrestling move on her.

And trust me, I can't recall the last time I hear a more sharper
scream than that (by the way, she's fine. No bones were broken...
luckily).

Now each time I mention to my girlfriend of that incident, she'll
turn black-faced and looked like she's ready to dig some nails into
me...

Geez...

So for now with all "opps incidents" aside, another "Dynamo Dating"
event is installed. This round, it's happening on Saturday, 8 Dec
2007.

Full details here --> http://www.seductionsingapore.com/dynamodating

This is extrememly useful if you're going out on a date with a
lady (or ladies) currently. Or you may want to equip these
strategies for use in any of your FUTURE dates.

You may not know this but when you attend "Dynamo Dating" till the
half-time break, in case you find the contents unbeneficial, I'll
give you a full refund PLUS an extra S$20.

I've been asked many times the question - "Why?"

Because I totally stand behind the ideas and want you to succeed on
dates.

I know what I'm doing is kinda INSANE, but if you're serious about
having strategies to make your next outing with women more FRUITFUL
than ever, I'll make sure it's going to be worth your while.


With respect,
Skilldo

3 Things That Cause Women To "Play Hard To Get"...

From what I experienced, succeeding with women is a process of...

- Place the CONDITIONS that cause attraction in women to happen.
- Remove & don't (unknowingly) put "blocks" that obstruct the
dating process.

One such block is the "hard to get" component in the female's mind.
And often times, it may get triggered unconsciously.

A few things can cause that...


"Hard to Get" Trigger #1: When a guy "chases"

For men who had figured the dating code out, they wonder why other
guys need to "do the chasing".

Instinctively they understand chasing is counter-productive because
the more one chases, the more a woman repels.

So instead of chasing, create "conditions of attraction" with your
projected personality and your dialogue with the girl.

Main thing is to cause her to be INTO you, and NOT treat dating as
"go in for the kill" like what most guys are doing.

Let's face it, when you get a girl to become interested in you,
everything else is a breeze from there... such that NO chasing is
necessary.


"Hard to Get" Trigger #2: Flattering the girl with nice words that
other guys had been telling her all her life

If a lady is good-looking, she KNOWS it. Guys had been telling her
she's "pretty", "sweet", "beautiful" from the time she can breathe
to now.

That accumulates to a point where she 'sums up' all the
compliment-singing guys and categorize them as "just another one of
those guys".

So if one more of such praise comes from a male, it comes as no
surprise to her.

In fact, every single same old compliment will push her "hard to
get" button once.

Say once... push once.

Say another... push one more time.

Note: If you've read so far, realise that "hard to get" is NOT
"impossible to get". But the point here is --- understand certain
things may SEEM helpful, but in actual fact cause obstructions.


"Hard to Get" Trigger #3: Letting the girl know you're into her TOO
SOON

A way to explain this...

Let's say you meet a new friend today.

10 minutes after you've met, he lets you know that he doesn't have
a place to stay and possibly requires you to let him sleep in your
house later.

So now, you go into "alert mode" since you both haven't even
bonded.

You start to view everything he says and every act he makes to
suggest he wants your home as his sleeping bag.

In fact, when he did ask if he can stay over, you counter him with
reasons and excuses why it's a "no"... And he tries again... and
you give another "no"...

Now, back to a dating scenario.

Imagine a guy were to let a girl know he's interested in her on the
first meet, barely before any bond is made.

Then he starts smsing the girl the next day to ask her out...
what's likely to happen?

She's going to do that "hard to get" thing and give reasons why she
cannot go out.

Thing is, some guys think that by telling her early is to "lock her
in". Sadly, that's seldom the case and it works against them.

To conclude: Becoming successful with women may seem
"counter-intuitive" at times. Just like how some men can easily
date fabulous women even though he DON'T have the looks or cash.

For that, I've put up an event that'll have you master all these
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With respect,
Skilldo

Why Impressing A Girl Doesn't Work (and What Does)...

There's an old question that lurks in the mind of guys in Singapore
for decades. And it's still lurking today...

It's the question of - Should a guy "impress the girl" or "attract
the girl"?

Let's define these two...

"Impress" is about a guy convincing the lady with either gifts,
flowers or objects of value. This also involves him showing the
lady effort (usually a huge amount) being put in, with the purpose
of having her feel touched by his actions and develop feelings for
him.

"Attract" is about a guy setting up certain conditions to let the
lady know of the "man qualities" he possess. Combined with that, he
applies knowledge of physical and emotional "know-hows" to guide
the lady to have pleasurable feelings about him, herself and the
entire dating dynamics between them.


Ok, I bet you've heard of different examples where guys got the
girl through these two ways. Some buy stuff for girl and got her,
others focus on having the girl feel irresistably drawn to him and
got her also.


Which one would be a better path to follow?

My view ---

For a long time I cannot believe this... but over the years,
evidences had revealed that when you make a lady become attracted
to you, whether you buy her gifts or not doesn't make a difference.
She'll like you anyhow.

So those guys who bought gifts for girls and got them, it may SEEM
like the gift caused it. BUT NO... the girls actually like them in
the first place already.

As for those dudes who HAVEN'T adequately attract a girl and starts
by impressing her with soft toys or showing the girl how much
effort they put in... are just wasting their time.

True story: One dude tried 'chasing' my female cousin by folding
1000 paper stars and putting all of it into a bottle. He did all he
can, he sacrificed all he can for her.

Eventually, my cousin did not go with him and went with another guy
instead. In her own words - "Any guy can fold paper stars. Any guy
can spend cash to buy presents. But not all guys can make me FEEL
something when I'm with him."

To quote another woman I chatted with last month, she said, "If a
guy showers me with gifts and hopes to impress me, he actually
comes across as trying too hard. If I don't feel anything for him
in the first place, every single gifts he gave is like begging me
to 'change my mind'. But I won't."

Every guy I knew who is a major success with women knows this -- A
guy who concentrates on attracting the girl shows himself as being
comfortable in front of her. He DOESN'T show he's trying too hard.

In fact, the cosyness between him and the girl comes across as
effortless, natural and relaxed. His type of "Gifts" are
invisible... the unseeable gift is giving the women feelings of
"fiery pleasurable emotions" when she's in front of him.

So your main focus must be on "kick-starting" attraction signals in
the lady's mind. That's your starting point.



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Skilldo

How To Project Strength That APPEALS To Women...

Before I explain the type of "strength" that women like in men, let
me tell you what I USED TO think.

Early on in life when I began socially experimenting around and
interacting with females...

... I (wrongfully) thought by behaving extremely gentlemanly (care
for every detail for the lady) would have them think of me as
pleasant... and may essentially make them think such a guy is
"boyfriend material"...

... Man, that was one of the CRAZIEST mistake that could happen,
because let's just say results were less than ideal.

Now, I have nothing against caring. But there is a difference
between these 2 things -

1) Caring and looking powerless to the gal.
2) Caring but still FIRMLY RETAIN your power.

In the case of 1), it simply means the guy care too much to the
point of being seen as SOFT by ladies.

Say for instance on a date, such a guy would typically ask the girl
where she would like to eat... where she would like to go after
that... is the cafe ok for her and if not she can suggest someplace
else... etc.

At first it may seem he's just being a sensitive male, but truth is
(and you can ask any of the females you know to give their MOST
honest views), this can make the guy look DIRECTIONLESS.

A lady friend once described such an experience to me, she said
"It's like the 'guy' is there on the date but the 'MAN' is missing."

There has to be a "strength" that emits within you during
interactions with women. The strength lies in - you know where to
bring them to. And you know what to do to lead them.

It's definitely ok (more than ok in fact) to set a direction for
the girl to follow.

You know where to go and you can confidently lead her there.

Tell her you feel like having some pasta today, lead her there.
Tell her you know of a cool place that you want to hang out after
dinner.

It's a MASSIVE plus point bcause while other guys she's been out
with seem to be sitting in a 'clueless prison', you appear different
by showing her you are SURE.

Most guys would want to "check with" the lady (for things they
should be leading) because they're afraid that not doing so would
"offend" her.

Yet, the moments when you display strength by showing a woman what
you want to do or where you want to go, she will just weave into
your direction.

Again, some may misunderstand this as being uncaring. NO. You care
and at the same time... you project strength.

By the way, this is NOT about dominating the lady. Instead, it's
showing her you have dominance over yourself.


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With respect,
Skilldo

How to Keep Getting BETTER With Women...

When it comes to going out with a lady and having a superb time
dating, there's one thing many guys (including me previously)
mistakenly forgot to do.

It's called "Tracking".

Here's what I mean -

Way back, I'd go out with a girl on a date. During the entire
course of the few hours with her, I'd see good responses coming out
of her at various times... there'll also be points of times where
the date hits a lull... there'll be times when she's
enthusiastic... or passive etc.

After the day's done, what did I do?

I'd just go home and return to my usual stuff. That's it.

(As I think back, that was idiotic.)

What should be done instead is-

"Track" the results. Look back into the course of the few hours of
dating and reflect on some of the things that bring out favorable
responses in a girl.

______________________________

_____________________________________

No man can progressively get better if he doesn't track his results
from the date.
___________________________________________________________________

So here's a "date-analysing" exercise.

After going out with a lady, return home and rip out a piece of
paper or use a notebook (I recommend this, it's your seduction
progress tracker).

Jot down on a page with these words - "What I did right"

Then start listing the things you SAY or DO that creates pleasant
responses from her.

- Recall the topics she kept ENGAGED and talked about with a smile.
Record it.

- Take note of certain times when you said or did something and she
TOUCHES you more. Pen it down.

- If you've tested some attraction tactics on that lady for the
first time, see what worked. Track it.


Once that's done, divide the page in two and write in the second
section with these words - "What can be improved the next time"

If you're meeting the same girl again (or you're going out with a
different lady), some of the things that had worked previously can
be "amplified" and repeated. Your notes are meant to help you see
the entire picture.

*Track the results*... discover those things that work, use it again
and again.

But please note there's NO reason to re-discover everything because
lots of "women-elating" findings had already been dug up, re-tested
and proved to work by me and some of the most powerful Singaporean
daters I mixed with.

So if you're really serious about cutting through all the junk and
go directly into the "lady-dating and attracting" CORE SOURCE,
read the info below and click on the link.

With respect,
Skilldo

2 Crucial GIRL-GETTING Tips...

First thing. Let's do an almost 'kiddy' act here.

Repeat after me...

"Doing anything for the girl won't work if she didn't like you in
the first place."

I stress the idea of - having the girl attracted to you BEFORE
anything else.

Most guys got the sequence messed up by first showering the girl
with soft toys, fine-dining, self-made presents and so on.

Problem is, if the lady didn't like the guy in the first place,
it'll look like he is buying his way through.

Cruel truth I know... but many males have lived through an incident
where they do so much for a gal but a new guy simply pops along and
become her boyfriend within days.

[If that happened to you, lose the baggage, know what doesn't work
and move on.]

Once again... having her massively LIKE you must always be the
"first line of action"... and any competition that comes along the
way won't matter because she wants you already.


Second point: Have you ever gotten courtship advice (from maybe an
uncle) which says, "Know the girl, MAKE FRIENDS with her first and
develop from there"?

Yikes.

My opinion is - the "make friends" part may be taken too heavily by
some males and they end up NOT getting the girl.

Because if you want to bond with the lady in an intimate
relationship, shouldn't you POSITION yourself as a "lover figure"
in her mind, as opposed to a "friend figure"?

If she sees you as a friend figure, she sees you as an everyday
person.
If she sees you as a lover figure, she wants you to be intimate
with her.

Call it anything... lover, mate or boyfriend... but you must create
the environment in her mind to have her view you as potentially a
man she desires to have intimacy with.

Note: The above points to set up attraction and position yourself
as a mate figure in the woman's mind are greatly expanded in a
"closed-door gathering of men" as described below. Read on for the
details.

With respect,
Skilldo

#1 Advice That Leaves A Man 'Girl-less' (You Probably Heard It Before)

I'm sure throughout your life, you've heard a VARIETY of dating
advice or suggestions coming from different people (perhaps an
auntie or a school friend etc).

Among these advices, no doubt some of them can be helpful in making
you get better with women.

Realistically, there'll also be common ones that does NOTHING to
boost a guy's social life.

And over the years, if I were to choose one absolute WORST advice
that can be thrown in a guy's face, it'll be - "Just be yourself."

*WAIT, WAIT WAIT!*

I'm NOT suggesting you to become someone else you're not or
betraying your own values.

To explain...

Over the years in my life, I've met many folks who gave out this
"just be yourself" line. As I look back, I realised they were...

- either single (for a long time)
- or said "just be yourself" because they DON'T know what other
advice to give.

[It's like an 'EASY WAY OUT' advice]

When it comes to becoming successful with ladies, it's too MUDDY to
simply say "just be yourself". It doesn't mean anything on its own.

Plus, I've came across very nice men with pleasant outlooks... they
were "being themselves" for 30, 40 years but have yet to find
success with gals.

So, my take on that is -

If being yourself doesn't give you the results you want with women,
it's time to IMPROVE or upgrade your "self".

After that, are you still yourself?

*** Yes, you're still yourself... only BETTER.***


Understand that being too caught up with the "Just be yourself"
line can become a TRAP for a person to remain where he is and NOT
want to move forward.

It's a different game now...

"Be yourself AND at the same time hold the skills to attract
fantastic women."

For me, aside from my current girlfriend, I've dated some
delightful gals in the past. Thing is...

... deep inside I know all of it would never happen if I remain my
"old self".

Looking at it another way -

The BETTER version of "self" rescued the "old self" from a life of
dateless-ness and loneliness.

To wrap it all up, there's no need to become someone else. Be a
more powerful version of yourself instead.

With respect,
Skilldo

How to NOT Get "Tongue-Tied' In Front of Women

Whether it's during an approach or a date, most guys become
tongue-tied or turn ladies off because TOO MUCH IMPORTANCE is put
into the interaction.

Consider these thoughts-

"I can't screw up this one. She's the last hot girl out there."

"If I don't do well at this date, I'll probably be girlfriend-less."

"She's the one. She's too nice/beautiful for me to lose."


Note: The above may seem like odd sentences, but believe it or not,
I hear them coming out of guys quite often.

My thoughts are - Firstly, earth (and our hometown Singapore)
is manufacturing more gorgeous and nice women every minute. So
DON'T worry about "there's no one else to date already".

Next, thinking there's too much at stake will ironically cause the
whole thing to fall hard. Afraiding it'll screw up ironically
causes it to screw up.

Reason - If you think there's too much at stake, there'll be
pressure. And when ladies sense pressure, they get uncomfortable.
Not good.

It's like this scenario - You're casually playing basketball.
Having fun standing few feet away from the basket and throwing
balls into it.

You're doing well so far. Suddenly, a man comes over and whisper in
your ear "The next ball you throw better go into the basket...
because I just bet your eyes on it. If you miss, I'll gouge
them out!"

The scene suddenly changes to a sweaty one where there's pressure
and something's at stake. So what are the chances of 'scoring' in
such a scene? Probably low.

And that absolutely relates to being good with ladies where how you
feel about being in the presence of women should change.

How?

I recommend this -

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Indulge Yourself Fully In The Process of FUN When Interacting With
Ladies
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Go out and lose yourself in the fun. Go out and casually interact,
thinking about the amount of amusement you're going to have,
instead of pressurizing oneself with fears such as "what if she
don't give me her number, what if she has a boyfriend" etc.

Nothing's at stake.

And when I say fun, I mean the 'discovery process' of meeting/dating
women. Get amused by what you found out about them... she talks
funny, she's shy, she can't dance, she just went on a holiday etc...

As it turns out, in such a comfortable situation, women are more
receptive. They respond better to the attraction tactics you deploy.

So...

Meeting women is fun. Talking and teasing women is fun. Being
around women is fun (it really is, I assure you).

Conclusion: Screwing up is the last thing in your mind when you're
enjoying yourself.

With respect,
Skilldo

Let's Talk About 'Resistance' From Women...

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Let's Talk About 'Resistance' From Women
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Two men.

One guy can face a situation where a response from a lady is not
positive and he'll feel rejected... even upset.

Another guy can face the SAME thing, yet he feels UNAFFECTED (he
can even grin to himself and feel motivated about the situation).

It's not a quiz or anything, but I'm sure you can guess who among
the two leads a life obtaining more successes with women.

Thing is - A man who has high levels of success with ladies can do
so because of the personal 'CODE OF CONDUCT' he live by.

There are a number of 'code of conduct' and perhaps one of the
first to be embraced is -

Never take it personally when facing resisting or negative
responses from women.

You see - While interacting with gals, doing things right can draw
out smiles and good attraction feelings from women. Yet, it is
unrealistic to think there won't be resistance every time.

Anyone who has talked to and mixed with enough ladies will know
resistance happens in some and not in others.

By that, resistance can mean cold replies or uninterested reactions.

Could a guy possibly did something to cause that?

Maybe, but that doesn't mean he has to blame himself for it (which
by the way, blaming oneself is the deepest form of taking things
personally).

The same time and effort taken to blame oneself can be used to
learn and modify your 'moves' to wear down the lady's resistance.

More importantly, at times, negative responses from gals have
ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you.

A quick self-explanatory example would come in handy here.

Once went to chalet to celebrate a lady friend's return from
overseas. Her own friends from elsewhere were there and vividly,
there was this gal dressed in light blue who was quiet to the max
and doesn't look keen to interact.

Most of that night, she was sitting by herself and occasionally
whipping out her handphone to either sms or play games with it.

She's almost seen as the 'cold zombie' for that night.

Here's where things get interesting...

The chalet was an overnight event. So the next morning while having
breakfast, this cold one suddenly became 'alive' and warm.

I asked her what's the deal about her being like a statue twelve
hours ago versus now.

Her reply?

She doesn't "feel her best" the night before. After waking up, she
felt "more sunny".

Plain and simple.

For the rest of the breakfast, she was talkative (and I mean
VERY)... can't shut her up even if we wanted to.

So as you can see, resistance in a girl at times have nothing to do
with you.

Imagine if a dude were to talk to the girl in the example the night
before and got cold replies. He might just mistaken the situation
and develop self doubt... whereby there's really nothing to
self-doubt at all.

Once again, refer to the 'code of conduct' at the top again. Most
guys 'kill themselves' for nothing... but not those who are
unaffected by women's resistance.

With respect,
Skilldo

Dating a Lady Becomes 'Ineffective' When This Happens...

Ask around men you know who are 'professional daters' and they'll
tell you that during dates with women, the purpose is to have a
buildup of attraction and enjoyment.

'Buildup' is important... as no gal would want a male as a
boyfriend (or reach a higher level of intimacy with him) if she
doesn't feel reasonably drawn to him or find him a bore.

This accumulation of feelings can be destroyed though.

For instance, you meet a lady for the first date. She's quite
attracted to you and enjoys your company.

Then during the next date, out of nowhere she starts complaining
about how that colleague at her workplace is bitchin' about her to
the boss behind her back.

You tried listening and suggesting what she can do.

And her complaining starts to prolong further and further... all
the way till it becomes not just her problem but YOURS as well.

In the end, it looks more like a complain session than a date.

Believe it or not, prolonged negativity on a date (even if it's her
personal stuff and it's got nothing to do with you) is a killer of
attraction and enjoyment buildup.

Worse, some guys hear a woman complain on a date, and they
encourage the complain further!

Sure, women grumble at certain intervals but when the complain is
PROLONGED, the buildup collapses.

Why?

Firstly, you might turn into a "complain buddy" of hers. NOT a
lover.

Second, the negativity of complain may crawl its way to cling to
you. Such that she equates seeing you as a negative experience.

So, what I say next is going to shake a lot of guy's old thoughts
and make them go "what the heck?"

I'll say it - When you're out a lady on a date, and somehow she
complains about an unhappy incident... You are NOT meant to stay
on and "listen".

Before it can prolong further, you are meant to stop the negative
train.

The attraction and enjoyment you've built so far won't be
threatened.

Don't encourage any grumblings or negatives further. Here's what
you can say to your date - "I know things don't turn out the way
you wanted. But guess what? Right here, you're far away from
whatever that had happened. You can relax now. Let's just enjoy
ourselves."

Then break into a smile and talk about something else.

As mentioned, I know this will disturb a lot of nice guys who
prefer to 'give a listening ear' to a complaining date.

Yet, believe it when I say these guys often end up as FRIENDS to
the lady. Nothing else.

So go ahead, use what you've read so far. Dates are meant to move
you forward with the gal, not backwards.

With respect,

Skilldo